How I can help you
My name is Andrew Cowan and I am an Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist from SE London. I work supporting people through their Grief Recovery Process, in groups over extended retreats and offering 1-1 online connection internationally.
I appreciate the different perspectives of life, that it is a very personal journey and everyone’s experiences are different. Grief can be a very disempowering emotional feeling. It can also make you feel isolated with an overwhelming need to be heard. However, there maybe no one available to listen or you may simply prefer to share with someone who has been trained to hear you without judgment or criticism.
Right now, something has brought you here to discover more about the Grief Recovery Method so please get in touch so we can talk about how we can work together.
My own personal journey with Grief brought home to me how difficult it is to share the immense weight of emotions associated with the sorrow of terminal illness, through loss of life, of bankruptcy, betrayal of trust and relationship breakups. This can create an overwhelming feeling of isolation. However, now you are here and you have already started on the road to recovery.
Grief manifests in our lives in many different ways and it is accumulative. We experience loss through the conflicting feelings caused by the end of, or change in a familiar pattern of behaviour, which can leave us with a build up of un-communicated emotions. Grief is most commonly associated with bereavement, but it is also experienced through job redundancies, divorce, lost childhood, illness, disability and many more significant life experiences.
Having spent my life working outside I have gained a huge respect for the living harmony of nature, its natural rhythms and cycles of life, through birth to death. I feel more and more people are increasingly finding themselves separated in an artificial world, suffering from what eco-philosopher Richard Louv calls a ‘nature deficit disorder’. Here we find another source of grief in the loss we feel in isolation cut off from our natural environment.
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life.
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Loss of career
Loss of identity
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Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind.
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.
Bereaved Mum Nicky Clifford recommends The Grief Recovery Method
From devastating bereavement to Grief Recovery - Jill Attree's story
A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method
Common Myths about the Loss of a Child
The loss of a child is truly devastating. But it does not have to mean that your life is over. Let's discuss some of the common myths around child loss and what they really mean.
First Mother’s Day without Mum
Last July, just as I’d pitched up a tent in a field in Cornwall, I got a devastating call from my mum’s friend to say that she’d started coughing up blood not long after we’d left home and had been taken by ambulance to hospital. She didn’t want to worry us. The next day, we learned she had terminal lung cancer that had spread.
When motherhood isn't as expected
Some of us may struggle with a mixture of complicated feelings on Mothering Sunday - even though we are supposed to "enjoy every minute" of motherhood, things are not always as we expected them to be.
Valentine’s When You’re Grieving
When you’ve experienced the death of your husband, wife, or partner, the lead-up to Valentine’s Day may cause you to want to hide undercover until it’s all over.
Reaching out for a partner who is no longer there
“If only I could tell them I love them one more time.” “If only I could touch them again.” “If only we could have one more day together.”
Did “emotional baggage” ruin your relationship?
When we finally learn how to unpack our emotional baggage, we open ourselves up to a multitude of new and exciting possibilities.
- Common Myths about the Loss of a Child Posted on 13th May 2021 at 12:16
- Help for survivors of bereavement by suicide Posted on 31st March 2021 at 14:53
- First Mother’s Day without Mum Posted on 9th March 2021 at 16:09
- When motherhood isn't as expected Posted on 2nd March 2021 at 14:07
- Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief Posted on 17th February 2021 at 11:27
- Valentine’s When You’re Grieving Posted on 12th February 2021 at 16:07
- Eating, Drinking, Keeping Busy: How we're coping with a second lockdown Posted on 25th January 2021 at 12:25
- What to do when your kids are clingy, angry and lashing out Posted on 11th January 2021 at 13:53
- Supporting a grieving friend this Christmas Posted on 14th December 2020 at 12:05
- Stuck on a painful lasting image? Posted on 8th December 2020 at 15:14
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Grief Recovery Group Programme
Experience the power of Grief Recovery in a group setting. 8 two-hour sessions with a maximum of 12 people. The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
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Grief Recovery 1-1 Online
This evidence-based, step-by-step course will help participants complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions that take place online with an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.