Once again, the academic year has dished out lots of losses for teachers, students and parents alike. 
 
Loss of normal 
Loss of routine 
Perhaps even loss of loved ones or colleagues  
 
As parents, you might also be feeling a loss of hopes and expectations for your children. 
 
If you're a teacher, you may feel a lack of support from Ofqual and the government, and maybe your school, and you may feel a loss of safety due to constant exposure to others. 
Are you prepared for returning to your workplace after loss during the pandemic? 
 
If you’ve lost a relative during Lockdown and you’re experiencing grief, it would be useful to mention this to your employer before you head back to work.  
 
This will help your employer to prepare for your return and help them to understand that you may need additional support and understanding. 
When people say, ‘You have to let go and move on,’ at the end of a relationship, not many people give you the steps to take you forward.  
 
Before you know it, you might have drifted into your next relationship without dealing with the emotional fall-out of the last one, without making room in your heart for the person who could become the love of your life. 
 
Most of us understand what is meant when the word ‘baggage’ is used in the context of a failed relationship. 
Eating too much during lockdown
A question we often get asked is “should I take my young child to a funeral?” At Grief Recovery, we believe that all feelings are normal and natural including sad or painful ones so it would be easy to say “yes of course”. The real question is whether your child is old enough to hang around relatively quietly while the adults do what they must do. If they can do that then yes, they should go. 
 
Crucially, before that happens, the child needs to know what to expect and what your expectations are of them so you’ll need to do some explaining before the event: 
Should I let my child go to a funeral?
The pain of losing a child cannot be described in words. It doesn’t matter if the child is still young, an adult, or still in the womb – a child is a part of us and the pain of losing that extraordinary person is incomprehensibly heartbreaking. The loss of a child creates a ripple effect that can touch the lives of relatives, friends, and the larger community. 
 
There are plenty of heartfelt stories, blogs, books and groups dedicated to people who have been bereaved by the loss of a child. In this article we are turning our focus to common misconceptions around child loss so that we can bring comfort and hope to those who are grieving. 
Loss of a child
Every loss is unique, as is every person who has suffered loss. But those who have been bereaved by suicide know that there are aspects of this type of loss that are particularly painful, hard to accept, challenging to explain to others and seemingly impossible to overcome. 
 
We would like to talk about some of the unique aspects of bereavement by suicide to help those left behind as well as those who would like to provide them support. 
Last July, just as I’d pitched up a tent in a field in Cornwall, I got a devastating call from my mum’s friend to say that she’d started coughing up blood not long after we’d left home and had been taken by ambulance to hospital. She didn’t want to worry us. The next day, we learned she had terminal lung cancer that had spread. My stoic, stubborn mother told us to go and make memories with the children, and that I wasn’t allowed to visit anyway, due to Covid restrictions. I did as I was told in between floods of tears. 
In just a few weeks, mothers all over the UK will be receiving gifts from their children and partners to celebrate motherhood. We would like to look at the holiday from a less common perspective, acknowledging those who may be experiencing more painful emotions than happy ones on Mothering Sunday. 
 
Some of us may find this occasion difficult to celebrate because we have never been able to experience motherhood even though it has been one of our hopes and dreams. 
 
Others may struggle with this day because motherhood has not been everything they expected it to be. 
Mothering Sunday
Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief

It's not very often tv talks about grief so we're thrilled that Channel 5 have given Esther Rantzen the chance to explore the topic in this ground breaking documentary. 

When you’ve experienced the death of your husband, wife, or partner, the lead-up to Valentine’s Day may cause you to want to hide undercover until it’s all over. Cupid’s arrow can turn and get you right in the heart when you’re grieving. For many, it is a particularly painful reminder, as it used to be a time to acknowledge and declare your love for each other, only now your significant other is no longer there. 
From an early age we have learned to deal with sad, negative emotions incorrectly, and we end up storing this energy inside. An example of this would be a child coming home from school feeling sad about an argument with a friend and they’re given a biscuit by their mother ‘to feel better.’ In that moment, they’ve been given a message that feelings can be fixed with food. The feelings are now buried under the biscuit and the distraction. In times of crisis, we turn to our old and learned ideas to deal with them. 
Eating too much during lockdown
Families are experiencing more emotional outbursts from children of all ages in Lockdown. If you want to take the intensity out of them, or try to limit them as much as possible, firstly you need to understand why they might be happening, and secondly read on to find out what you can do about them. 
 
Tantrums are a short-term energy releasing behaviour. Think of it as a boiling kettle letting off steam. The feeling of frustration and the inability to communicate their feelings – either because they don’t understand what they’re feeling but know they’re feeling something, or because they’re not being heard – must come out somewhere. 
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