Returning to Your Workplace After Loss During the Pandemic
Posted on 3rd August 2021 at 13:16
Are you prepared for returning to your workplace after loss during the pandemic?
If you’ve lost a relative during Lockdown and you’re experiencing grief, it would be useful to mention this to your employer before you head back to work.
This will help your employer to prepare for your return and help them to understand that you may need additional support and understanding.
Preparing for Your Return to Work
When you have this conversation, you may want to think about having your loss communicated to your colleagues, for example your line manager. Also, talk about whether you want colleagues to know or indeed talk to you about it, as you may find it too upsetting.
Some grievers find it easier to talk to colleagues, so that they can understand what you’re going through.
Recognising Grief Responses
Once you’re back at work, you may experience one or more of the following grief responses:
- Struggling to concentrate
- Feeling tired, listless or weary more easily
- Feelings of sadness, numbness, or a need to cry
- Feelings of isolation
Please know that these are all normal grief responses and there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s also important to know that there are no time limits on grief. You may feel fine one day and dip the next.
Preventing Feeling Isolated
It’s an idea to find at least one safe person at work who you can talk to and feel comfortable sharing what you’re feeling. This will help you to prevent feelings of isolation.
Ideally, you want to find someone who is a good listener and won’t interrupt you or tell you how to feel.
You will inevitably hear sentiments like ‘be strong’, ‘time’s a great healer,’ or ‘don’t feel sad.’
These are things people say when they feel they want to help but don’t have the tools to do so. In these instances, hear the intent, not the content.
Be aware that throwing yourself wholeheartedly into your work might be your way of avoiding your feelings, which could lead to burn-out.
If you find your feelings are overwhelming and you need more support, we can provide one-to-one help with our seven-part evidence-based Grief Recovery Programme.
Discovery is not the same as recovery - which is why the Grief Recovery Method is an action plan made up of a series of small steps that when taken in order, leads to the completion of all the unresolved business linked to a bereavement.
"I miss him every day and sometimes I’m sad when I think about him – which is all normal and natural. But often I remember him with happiness & I also feel closer to him than ever which is wonderful.”
- Nicky Clifford, speaking on the Grief Recovery Method after the death of her son.
If you would like to find out more, you can find one of our Grief Recovery Specialists near you here.
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