Posted on 21st September 2021 at 17:17
When you’re grieving, well-meaning friends can be the source of unhelpful comments, said to make you feel better.
You’re advised to take actions that distract you from your feelings or convert your feelings into intellectual ideas.
“Be strong,” and “They wouldn’t want you to be sad,” for example are all true intellectually, but don’t help you deal with your feelings.
Consequently, it can become easier to tell everyone you’re fine rather than sharing the truth. You might even start believing it yourself even though realistically you’re far from fine.