Emma Tomes 

Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist 

Offering programmes in the Grief Recovery Method, the only evidence-based programme of its kind that has been helping people heal from all major life losses for over thirty years 
 

Emma Tomes 

Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist 

Offering programmes in the Grief Recovery Method, the only evidence-based programme of its kind that has been helping people heal from all major life losses for over thirty years 
Aoife Douglas Grief Recovery Specialist
Aoife Douglas Grief Recovery Specialist
 

How I can help you 

I’m Emma, a Mum to two boys and I live in Bournemouth on the South Coast.  
 
In 2010 my heart was broken when my son’s Dad lost his life to poor mental health, this left me with an overwhelming feeling of loss, guilt and sadness. I felt so alone and I wasn’t prepared for how this experience would change mine and my son’s life.  
 
After years of feeling weighed down by grief and loss I discovered the Grief Recovery Method. The step by step programme was so easy to follow and having someone to listen made such a difference. It’s helped me to not only recover from the pain of losing my son’s dad but also from other significant emotional losses such as divorce and redundancy.  
 
I felt so passionate about my experience that I trained to become an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist to help others feel better. I now teach the Grief Recovery Method to people who support children through grief such as; Parents, Carers and Teachers.  
 
I also work with individuals to help them complete their relationship to the pain, isolation and loneliness caused by significant emotional loss. Giving them the chance to let go of the negative energy we hold on to, to deliver all the undelivered emotional communications that they never had the chance to say. To find peace, remember memories with fondness and move beyond their loss. If you’d like to talk, I’d love to listen so please get in touch. 

Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft 

When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died. 
 
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.  
 
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique. 
 
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life. 
Death of a loved one 
Divorce, separation, breakup 
Estrangement of family members 
Miscarriage 
Infertility 
Abusive or absent parent 
Loss of safety due to trauma 
Death of a pet 
Retirement, empty nest 
Loss of health 
Loss of finances 
Loss of faith 
Relocation 
Loss of career 
Addiction 
Loss of identity 

Evidence Based 

The Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence-based grief programme in the world. Research published in peer-reviewed journals has shown that it makes a measurable, positive difference in people's grief journey.  
 
 

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Helping Children with Loss 

Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind. 
 
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.  

Connect online 

Connect Online 

Learn more about the Grief Recovery Method on your own: 

Videos 

Bereaved Mum Nicky Clifford recommends The Grief Recovery Method 
From devastating bereavement to Grief Recovery - Jill Attree's story 
A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method  

Articles 

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Grief Recovery 1-1 Online 

This evidence-based, step-by-step course will help participants complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions that take place online with an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves. 
 
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book. 

Grief Recovery Helping Children with Loss Online 

The Helping Children with Loss programme is an online course for parents, teachers and anyone who works with children in a professional environment. It provides adults with the same tools and techniques used in the evidence based Grief Recovery Method, so they can assist children and young adults of any age or ability level through a loss. 
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