How I can help you
Is your grief leaving you feeling overwhelmed by sadness?
Are you struggling with feelings of helplessness, guilt, regret and anger?
Does life feel pointless, leaving you feeling exhausted, without joy, vision, and purpose?
You don’t need to suffer in silence. Help is available.
I have had multiple losses myself and so know what it is like to be stuck in grief for years. I lost my mother at the age of 13, my older brother when I was 30, my youngest sister had a delayed grief reaction and committed suicide a year later and then my father died. I then went on to have 3 miscarriages.
The Grief Recovery Method brought hope. Having grown through my grief, I trained as an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist to help others.
Using the gentle Grief Recovery Method, I would like to help by empowering you to identify and deal with your unresolved grief, and so restore your love for life.
Not getting the right help when my mum died caused me pain for many years, so I am particularly passionate about equipping adults to help children with loss.
Contact me for a free discovery call to start your healing journey.
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life.
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Loss of career
Loss of identity
"I first heard about the grief recovery method during a personal development presentation where Ghulam Fernandes gave an overview of the programme. I felt that I could benefit from the course and signed up for a free 30 minutes initial consultation via zoom with Ghulam.
"Ghulam explained what the programme was about and the level of support I can expect to receive during the programme. She also took time to listen to my personal circumstances and addressed any concerns I had and clarified my goals and expectations to ensure we are the right fit to work together.
"She was transparent and gave me information on the cost and materials required to complete the sessions. I had 8 weekly sessions where I learnt about how to map my loss history, identify my Short-Term Energy Relieve Behaviours; How to create my relationship graph and taught me the tools that I could apply to manage my emotional response to losses or disappointments that may occur during my daily life. The programme has given me the opportunity to grow emotionally and develop my resilience to stresses that may occur at home or at work. I believe the programme is good value for money and I would recommend it."
- Doris Edemafaka, 1:1 Online Client
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"I had never heard of the Grief Recovery Method before. I had had counselling which helped to a certain extend but was interested to learn about tools that I could use after the sessions. I was pleasantly surprised that this method dealt with grief in a very methodical way and did in fact give me tools to use throughout the weeks but also to use once I had finished the course in many situations.
"An unexpected benefit from doing the GRM was that of coming to some realisations about myself and how I deal with certain situations and people. These acknowledgments have been very helpful. Ghulam was a great session leader, very calming and empathetic. I always felt safe sharing information with her and I always learnt something new after each session. I have already recommended the GRM to other people’
- Azaria Francis, 1:1 Online Client
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"The grief recovery course helped me with processing the loss of my son. It taught me all about the different types of personal losses, it was also beneficial to do the relationship graph. I would definitely recommend the course. Ghulam’s patience and encouragement helped me to complete the course."
- Maria Israel, 1:1 Online Client
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Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind.
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.
Bereaved Mum Nicky Clifford recommends The Grief Recovery Method
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A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method
Help for survivors of bereavement by suicide
If you've suffered a loss by suicide or are looking for bereavement counselling for suicide, we're here to offer support.
First Mother’s Day without Mum
Last July, just as I’d pitched up a tent in a field in Cornwall, I got a devastating call from my mum’s friend to say that she’d started coughing up blood not long after we’d left home and had been taken by ambulance to hospital. She didn’t want to worry us. The next day, we learned she had terminal lung cancer that had spread.
Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief
It's not very often tv talks about grief so we're thrilled that Channel 5 have given Esther Rantzen the chance to explore the topic in this ground breaking documentary. A widow herself, Esther wanted to understand other people's reactions to loss and in the in-depth programme she talks to 6 people about their grief experience.
Common Myths about the Loss of a Child
The loss of a child is truly devastating. But it does not have to mean that your life is over. Let's discuss some of the common myths around child loss and what they really mean.
When motherhood isn't as expected
Some of us may struggle with a mixture of complicated feelings on Mothering Sunday - even though we are supposed to "enjoy every minute" of motherhood, things are not always as we expected them to be.
What to do when your kids are clingy, angry and lashing out
Even though this isn't the first time we've been in Lockdown, you may have noticed your children's behaviour is pretty challenging the second time around.
- Should I let my child go to a funeral? Posted on 18th June 2021 at 12:48
- Common Myths about the Loss of a Child Posted on 13th May 2021 at 12:16
- First Mother’s Day without Mum Posted on 9th March 2021 at 16:09
- When motherhood isn't as expected Posted on 2nd March 2021 at 14:07
- Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief Posted on 17th February 2021 at 11:27
- Lucy Herd of "Jack's Law" Talks about being a Grief Recovery Specialist Posted on 2nd November 2020 at 16:40
- The Kiss of Death on a Friendship Posted on 26th October 2020 at 19:23
- Carrying the Pain of Baby Loss Posted on 15th October 2020 at 16:57
- Grieving the Living Posted on 22nd September 2020 at 19:18
- Reaching out for a partner who is no longer there Posted on 17th September 2020 at 14:06
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Grief Recovery 1-1 Online
This evidence-based, step-by-step course will help participants complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions that take place online with an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
Grief Recovery Helping Children with Loss Online
The Helping Children with Loss programme is an online course for parents, teachers and anyone who works with children in a professional environment. It provides adults with the same tools and techniques used in the evidence based Grief Recovery Method, so they can assist children and young adults of any age or ability level through a loss.