Why is it so hard to “move on”?
Do any of the following sound familiar?
You try talking to friends about your breakup but they tell you to “move on” or “start meeting new people”.
You can’t bear to part with the gifts, photographs and reminders of your ex.
You lie awake at night going over the relationship – what you could have said or done differently, where things went wrong.
You find yourself daydreaming about your ex, spying on them on social media or thinking about their new partner.
You worry that you’ll never feel like yourself again.
Your heart is broken but you simply can’t let go.
If we knew how to move on, we would have already done it
Get on with your life.
There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
The past is in the past.
Go out and meet people.
Learn to let go.
Get a new hobby.
There are plenty of books and YouTube videos telling you how to attract the perfect mate or find the love of your life, but there are far fewer tips for what to do if/when the relationship ends.
We try to get help from friends or spend months in therapy in an attempt to feel better. It may provide some short-term relief, and we feel better as we come out of our therapy appointment or burn another letter or photograph, but the pain is still there.
There are still things we wish we would have said or done differently, or maybe we feel unfairly treated and angry. We’ve been trying to move on, but nothing seems to work.
It's not you...it's grief
Contrary to what you may have heard, grief can be the result of many different kinds of loss. If you have a broken heart, you may have experienced one of the following losses:
Divorce or separation
Breakup of a relationship
Looking for love
Death of a partner
Pain in your current relationship caused by infidelity, resentment
Bad experiences with previous partners that sabotage new relationships
The pain of heartbreak is every bit as emotional and real as the pain caused by a bereavement or other loss. Unfortunately, we often suffer in silence for fear of ridicule by others or because we don't want (or need!) their advice.
Fortunately, there is an evidence-based, structured programme that can teach you the action steps for dealing with the pain of your loss. By working on your own or with a Grief Recovery Specialist, you can take a break from the pain and learn how to feel free again.
A Method that's proven to work
Find relief for your broken heart
The Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence-based grief programme in the world. Research published in peer-reviewed journals has shown that it makes a measurable, positive difference in people's grief journey.
For those who have suffered the loss of a relationship through a breakup, divorce, separation, bereavement or any other unique situation, working through this structured programme with a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist can be life changing.
Please do not wait for time to heal your wounds, learn the action steps required to say goodbye to the pain.
You can break the cycle of relationship sabotage, emotional baggage and the feeling of being haunted by the ghosts of relationships past – take a look at one of our articles below or contact us to ask about our programmes.