Judith McAllister 

Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist 

Offering programmes in the Grief Recovery Method, the only evidence-based programme of its kind that has been helping people heal from all major life losses for over thirty years 
 

Judith McAllister 

Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist 

Offering programmes in the Grief Recovery Method, the only evidence-based programme of its kind that has been helping people heal from all major life losses for over thirty years 
Aoife Douglas Grief Recovery Specialist
Aoife Douglas Grief Recovery Specialist
 

How I can help you 

Hello and welcome to my page. My name is Judith. Thank you for taking the first step in exploring how the Grief Recovery Method programmes I offer could help you. 
 
Are you feeling bereft, heartbroken, lost, stuck, anxious, angry or any of a myriad of emotions, perhaps conflicting, following a loss? Are people telling you to just ‘move on’ or ‘keep busy’ yet nothing eases your pain? Perhaps you do not know where to start or who to talk to? 
 
Through 1:1 and Group programmes, I offer a safe and confidential space for you to gently work through what is keeping you in pain, stuck or unable to be in the present moment following a loss of any kind using the step by step personal action plan offered by the Grief Recovery Method. 
 
Please don’t wait for time alone to heal- it doesn’t. You can take action to heal your heart now. Please contact me to arrange a no obligation informal chat to talk about what has been happening for you and to see whether you feel a Grief Recovery Method programme is right for you. My contact details are at the bottom of the page. 
 
My story 
In 2018 I had a breakdown. It seemed to come out of nowhere. The following year my family and I experienced a significant loss which impacted us all deeply. Whilst struggling to support my children in their grief my sister-in-law recommended that I read the book ‘When Children Grieve’ by John W James and Russell Friedman. It was while reading this book that I had a lightbulb moment. I realised that my breakdown had been caused by unresolved grief and the cumulative weight of losses built up in me over many years - bereavements, relationship breakdown, a loss of health etc. My sister-in-law, suggested I attend a Grief Recovery Method personal workshop to explore this. It was a turning point in my life. 
 
Having walked through the steps of the Grief Recovery Method myself, and having experienced the incredibly positive impact using the Grief Recovery Method had on my own life- releasing me from pain long carried and allowing me to walk forward unimaginably lighter in life - in 2019, I trained to teach others this powerful step by step action plan so that they too could be released as I have been. Grief recovery means feeling better. It does not mean forgetting but it does mean being able to walk forward relieved of pain. 
 
For many the term ‘Grief’ is associated with bereavement, but, as well as the loss of a loved one, there are over 40 other life events can evoke grief through loss including relationship breakdown, redundancy and infertility. There is more about the wide range of losses, some tangible and some not, which the Grief Recovery Method can help you with below. If you are grieving a loss of any kind, I am here for you. 
 
Grief associated with a life-long or life-changing diagnosis, either your own or that of a family member, is often overlooked but can have a very significant impact on the lives of many people in terms of lost hope, dreams and expectations. If this resonates with you, as it did me, please get in touch. 
 
I happen to have some qualifications in Psychology (BSc Psychology, MSc Occupational Psychology) but it was not until I discovered the Grief Recovery Method that I found something which could release me from the pain I had been carrying due to loss in my life. Many people will be familiar with the concept of counselling or therapy following a loss. Perhaps you have tried it. While counselling may be of some benefit, it mainly offers a path to discovery of the thoughts and feelings you have around the loss in your life. Discovery is not the same as recovery.  
 
The Grief Recovery Method is a personal action plan. It is a series of small steps that when taken, in order, by the griever leads to the completion of all the unresolved emotional business linked to the loss. It is this completion which relieves grievers of pain. The Grief Recovery Method is also - to the best of my knowledge - the only grief support programme with an evidence base to its positive impact. You can find out more about that below. 
 
If any of the above has resonated with you and you would like to find out more and see if a Grief Recovery Method programme with me could be right for you - 1:1 or in a group, through video calls or in person (as current circumstances allow) - please do get in touch using the contact details at the bottom of the page. My face to face programmes take place in the Coventry area. 
 
Alongside my work with grievers I also offer a Helping Children with Loss (HCWL) Programme. Having felt completely out of my depth in supporting my children through loss before I found the Grief Recovery Method and having witnessed the grief of a school community, children and adults alike, following the loss of a hugely loved student twice in my life, I am passionate about the HCWL programme. 
 
The Helping Children with Loss programme is an ACEs informed programme for adults - parents, teachers and other professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind. It uses the principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability levels. 
 
With the ongoing myriad impacts of the Coronavirus pandemic, now more than ever, those supporting children and young people need the skills to support them through loss of all kinds. You can find out more about HCWL below. 
 
If you wish to learn how to support children and young people experiencing loss please do contact me for a no obligation chat about the HCWL programme. You can find my contact details at the bottom of the page. 
 
I hope to hear from you soon. 

Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft 

When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died. 
 
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.  
 
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique. 
 
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life. 
Death of a loved one 
Divorce, separation, breakup 
Estrangement of family members 
Miscarriage 
Infertility 
Abusive or absent parent 
Loss of safety due to trauma 
Death of a pet 
Retirement, empty nest 
Loss of health 
Loss of finances 
Loss of faith 
Relocation 
Loss of career 
Addiction 
Loss of identity 

Evidence Based 

The Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence-based grief programme in the world. Research published in peer-reviewed journals has shown that it makes a measurable, positive difference in people's grief journey.  
 
 

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Helping Children with Loss 

Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind. 
 
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.  

Connect online 

Connect Online 

Learn more about the Grief Recovery Method on your own: 

Videos 

Bereaved Mum Nicky Clifford recommends The Grief Recovery Method 
From devastating bereavement to Grief Recovery - Jill Attree's story 
A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method  

Articles 

  • When motherhood isn't as expected
    Some of us may struggle with a mixture of complicated feelings on Mothering Sunday - even though we are supposed to "enjoy every minute" of motherhood, things are not always as we expected them to be.
  • Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief
    It's not very often tv talks about grief so we're thrilled that Channel 5 have given Esther Rantzen the chance to explore the topic in this ground breaking documentary. A widow herself, Esther wanted to understand other people's reactions to loss and in the in-depth programme she talks to 6 people about their grief experience.
  • The Kiss of Death on a Friendship
    Why the people you expect to support you after loss can disappear
  • When motherhood isn't as expected
    Some of us may struggle with a mixture of complicated feelings on Mothering Sunday - even though we are supposed to "enjoy every minute" of motherhood, things are not always as we expected them to be.
  • Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief
    It's not very often tv talks about grief so we're thrilled that Channel 5 have given Esther Rantzen the chance to explore the topic in this ground breaking documentary. A widow herself, Esther wanted to understand other people's reactions to loss and in the in-depth programme she talks to 6 people about their grief experience.
  • Lucy Herd of "Jack's Law" Talks about being a Grief Recovery Specialist
    Lucy Herd campaigned for 10 years and in April Jack's Law came into play ensuring that bereaved parents are now entitled to two weeks’ statutory bereavement leave. Here she talks to Carole Henderson about how the Grief Recovery Method has transformed her and how she plans to help others going forward.

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Grief Recovery Group Programme 

Experience the power of Grief Recovery in a group setting. 8 two-hour sessions with a maximum of 12 people. The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.  
 
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Grief Recovery Helping Children with Loss 

The Helping Children with Loss programme is for parents, teachers and anyone who works with children in a professional environment. It provides adults with the same tools and techniques used in the evidence based Grief Recovery Method, so they can assist children and young adults of any age or ability level through a loss. 

Grief Recovery 1-1 Online 

This evidence-based, step-by-step course will help participants complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions that take place online with an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves. 
 
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book. 

Grief Recovery Helping Children with Loss Online 

The Helping Children with Loss programme is an online course for parents, teachers and anyone who works with children in a professional environment. It provides adults with the same tools and techniques used in the evidence based Grief Recovery Method, so they can assist children and young adults of any age or ability level through a loss. 
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