How I can help you
I have always found myself to be a supportive person. After experiencing loss, divorce, tragedy, and heartache in my life, I felt there was something more I could do to support others who maybe going through similar experiences.
So, what is grief?
Grief is a normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Therefore, the feelings you are having are also normal and natural for you. The problem is, we have been led to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural. Loss can be due to the death of a loved one, the end of an important relationship, or one of many other life changing events that can summon grief. There are over 40 types of loss that can be experienced in a lifetime. Grief is individual. My loss is different to yours so there is not just one method of supporting you. There is no ‘one size fits all’… and that’s okay.
A little bit about me…
The first time I was aware of loss in my life was from being abandoned by my father as a child. I also saw the impact of this on my Mum who felt she had no choice but to ‘carry on’. She did not realise the effect this had on her or the family at the time.
During my marriage, I went from being focussed on my successful career, to becoming a Wife and Mother. I felt I lost my independence and the ability to do what I wanted and when I wanted. This put pressure on my marriage, which sadly ended in divorce.
At 39, I was made redundant from a job I started at 16 when leaving school. I felt I lost my identity and my direction, as it was all I ever knew.
I’ve experienced the loss of close family and friends, but the loss of my mother, the head of my family was the ultimate loss to me.
Attending a talk about bereavement finally made me decide to investigate how I could get involved in some sort of support or counselling. I came across The Grief Recovery Method – The action programme for moving beyond death, divorce and other losses.
Attending The Grief Recovery Method training gave me the opportunity to realise the emotional losses I have experienced during my life and the ability to guide others to move beyond their loss. The Grief Recovery Method takes you through a step-by-step approach and it will also equip you with the tools to get you through any possible future loss.
I provide sessions face-to-face via Facetime, Zoom, Skype and most online platforms, so if you don’t live in Hampshire, I am only a call away. My passion is to empower you and help you to find your ‘new normal’ amid a tragedy or a time of confusion and loss.
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life.
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Loss of career
Loss of identity
Testimonials "Following the breakdown of a long-term relationship my friends and family would always say to me ‘You have to let go and move on' , it's 'time to meet someone else,’ but it’s not always easy to do that and felt I needed help how to do it. Someone suggested Grief recovery to help me find a way through the grief step by step. It would allow me to look at how to let go of emotional baggage from anger to sadness, loss of trust and find my confidence again. "So, I decided to try it, I was very nervous in my first session, but Noreen reassured me this was the right therapy for me. She explained everything really well, guided me through the grief recovery method by using the book and as the method unfolded it allowed me to examine week by week different emotions, why they came up and what triggered them, but most importantly looking at the good things within the relationship, which was lovely to revisit. As I needed to stop focusing on the bad things and what went wrong. The process each week looked a difference aspect of my relationship it helped me face my feelings but also express myself in a safe space. I have learnt how to forgive, say the things you wanted to say but didn't get the chance too and say goodbye. "What helped was the weekly commitment to go through the different sections and processing the information and how it made me feel. I can honestly say without it I wouldn't have completed it. Noreen has great empathy she inspired trust and confidence in myself, she helped me to examine my past and present. She was never judgemental, always reassuring, very relaxed and now I have completed the process I feel I can and want more from my life. Thank you, Noreen, for all your kindness, support and understanding during this process it is very much appreciated. I know you will help many more clients through their grief, and I wish you every success. - Julie McFadden, 1-1 online participant ========================== "I had previously been unaware of the Grief Recovery handbook or process at all before I spoke to Noreen. In the past I have undertaken different forms of counselling and psychotherapy e.g CBT/BWRT and talking therapies including online/over the phone. "I wasn’t sure if it was for me at first due to the title, I don’t feel that I’ve had much grief in my life, however after initial discussions with Noreen it became clear that it was something that I had to try as it focuses on any losses in life. It was also very appealing as there are a set number of sessions (in the past counselling has gone on and on without a clear ending or closure) with grief recovery, I can say that you do gain a sense of closure, not forgetting about anything in your past or individuals but being able to manage thoughts and feelings tied to these individuals and experiences in a much more positive way. "The whole process was great from the off and Noreen was always on hand to support with questions or queries. For once I also felt like I was actually listened too and my perception of loss and grief was never once judged. It is really important that you take the process seriously though and make time to properly prepare and think for your sessions. The book is also broken down into bite size chunks and that with Noreen’s support made tough sessions much easier. "I must admit that at points I was upset, however after my 3rd or 4th session, which was quite emotional the next day I felt strangely calm and clear headed, I must say since then this feeling seems to have stayed. I do not think it just ends after your final session either, you can then apply this method with the support of Noreen to other situations/experiences/losses. I feel that as time goes on I will always return to Noreen and this process to support me through and I can say that it is nothing like any other form of therapy I have had so far, feels much more effective! I have definitely felt a change in my mood and thinking patterns from this experience and it was invaluable to me, Noreen is amazing and I do still miss our sessions now! Thanks again for all of your support through this Noreen, you have been amazing! - Elspeth Dickson, 1-1 online participant ========================== "I completed the grief recovery process with Noreen after my brother died suddenly in August this year. My initial expectations after being recommended were pretty low, as this was my first big emotional loss and i didn’t ever expect to ever come out the other end of it. I didn’t know how to deal with or understand what my mind and body were going through after his death. My first communication with Noreen she called me and I could barely talk through the tears and she listened without interruption and I really felt for the first time since the death that I was being heard. "I was really nervous to start because I was expecting it to be like counselling and I’ve never been a talker about feelings and was guilty of bottling things up being a man and trying to be strong for the others. I was wrong. Noreen is guide and a teacher and this is structured process that you work through and complete together. Not at one point did Noreen tell me how I should be feeling or what I should be thinking. This is a road to completing your loss and your grief. Not “getting over it” or forgetting. "I can say that having finished the process I feel complete and at peace. What an amazing woman Noreen is. I can not put into words how thankful I am for this lady for taking me through this process. Noreen has a way about her I cannot explain, that makes you feel instant trust and rapport. The honesty works both ways in this process and you honour commitments together at the start of every session to complete confidentiality and honesty which makes you feel like you are on the road of completion together, with Noreen leading the way. She gained my trust from day one and I felt honoured that she was able to share with me her own experiences with loss and her own thoughts, feelings and completion journey. "I came out the other end of this process feeling a sense of completion and peace and I can look back and say I would never have been able to achieve that if it wasn’t for Noreen and this process. I cannot recommend this enough. This is better than any pill or medication that you’re typically prescribed by a doctor to try and mask and bury the grief. Thank you for saving me Noreen." - Louis Craig , 1:1 participant
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Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind.
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.
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Grief Recovery Group Programme
Experience the power of Grief Recovery in a group setting. 8 two-hour sessions with a maximum of 12 people. The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
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Grief Recovery 1 to 1 Programme
This step-by-step course shows individuals how to complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions. Taking place in a safe environment with a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, it provides a genuine alternative to counselling or therapy. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
Grief Recovery 1-1 Online
This evidence-based, step-by-step course will help participants complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions that take place online with an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.