How I can help you
Are you feeling overwhelmed with sadness?
Struggling with feelings of helplessness, guilt, regret, or anger?
Do you feel stuck, going round and round in a thick fog?
I can help you cope with these confusing feelings by teaching you a fresh approach called the Grief Recovery Method. This is an evidence-based, step-by-step process to take action to help yourself, rather than just sitting and talking about your feelings over and over again.
Two grieving men founded the grief recovery method after failing to find support that they could relate to. For all men out there wondering if this is for you, it could be just what you are looking for. You will learn how to cope with the pain of loss and get your life back on track again.
Every person is unique, every relationship is unique and so everyone’s experience of grief is unique.
I am Tricia Pelling, a certified Grief Recovery Specialist based in York, North Yorkshire. I have worked with adults, parents and children for over 25 years as a teacher, play therapist and child and family support worker. There has been one common denominator that I have constantly come up against: unresolved grief and the devastating effects of loss.
In searching to support others, I found Grief UK and after working on my own losses, I now focus on those who feel emotionally trapped in grief. I am particularly keen to help bereaved men and fathers who often find it hard to seek support for themselves.
Please get in touch for a chat to find out more. It’s time to reclaim your life and feel happier again.
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life.
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Loss of career
Loss of identity
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Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind.
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.
Bereaved Mum Nicky Clifford recommends The Grief Recovery Method
From devastating bereavement to Grief Recovery - Jill Attree's story
A brief introduction to the Grief Recovery Method
Help for survivors of bereavement by suicide
If you've suffered a loss by suicide or are looking for bereavement counselling for suicide, we're here to offer support.
First Mother’s Day without Mum
Last July, just as I’d pitched up a tent in a field in Cornwall, I got a devastating call from my mum’s friend to say that she’d started coughing up blood not long after we’d left home and had been taken by ambulance to hospital. She didn’t want to worry us. The next day, we learned she had terminal lung cancer that had spread.
Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief
It's not very often tv talks about grief so we're thrilled that Channel 5 have given Esther Rantzen the chance to explore the topic in this ground breaking documentary. A widow herself, Esther wanted to understand other people's reactions to loss and in the in-depth programme she talks to 6 people about their grief experience.
Valentine’s When You’re Grieving
When you’ve experienced the death of your husband, wife, or partner, the lead-up to Valentine’s Day may cause you to want to hide undercover until it’s all over.
Eating, Drinking, Keeping Busy: How we're coping with a second lockdown
Have you been hiding or burying your feelings under food or alcohol? Or are shopping and TV your coping mechanism of choice? Here are some things to do instead.
The Kiss of Death on a Friendship
Why the people you expect to support you after loss can disappear
- Help for survivors of bereavement by suicide Posted on 31st March 2021 at 14:53
- First Mother’s Day without Mum Posted on 9th March 2021 at 16:09
- Esther Rantzen - Living with Grief Posted on 17th February 2021 at 11:27
- Valentine’s When You’re Grieving Posted on 12th February 2021 at 16:07
- Eating, Drinking, Keeping Busy: How we're coping with a second lockdown Posted on 25th January 2021 at 12:25
- Stuck on a painful lasting image? Posted on 8th December 2020 at 15:14
- Top 8 Tips for Surviving Grief at Christmas Posted on 2nd December 2020 at 13:25
- Men, Grief and Sudden Loss Posted on 27th November 2020 at 14:06
- Not Able to Say Goodbye? 2020, a Year of Loss Posted on 19th November 2020 at 12:15
- Remembering our Service Members and their Families Posted on 11th November 2020 at 12:09
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Grief Recovery 1 to 1 Programme
This step-by-step course shows individuals how to complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions. Taking place in a safe environment with a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, it provides a genuine alternative to counselling or therapy. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.