How I can help you
My name is Zelda and I live in Ramsey on the Isle of Man with my husband and two sons. I am originally from Dublin, Ireland.
When I was 13 years old, my Granny who lived with me started to present with the symptoms of Alzheimer’s, gradually her health deteriorated and she later moved into a nursing home when I was 16 years old. She lived there for a further ten years.
When I was 17 years old I experienced two significant losses within a 3 months period of one another. The sudden death of my Father who became disabled, as a result of a stroke when I was six years old, and the death of my beloved Grand Uncle.
In my twenties I got married and divorced. In 2007 my older sister died from cancer. Other losses I have experienced include, loss of pets, being made redundant, loss of a sense of safety and security after being robbed on holiday, loss of friends moving off the IOM and a family friend taking her own life.
I have worked in the health and social care sector for over 30 years. I first worked with children and their parents in a family centre. I then moved to a respite centre working with children and their families with a variety of disabilities. Currently I work part time with adults with learning disabilities. Throughout my career I supported adults and children with a wide range of losses as best I could.
By chance I was browsing through a well-known woman’s magazine when I read an article about the Grief Recovery Method. Over the years I read self-help books, received some counselling in regard to my losses, but grief still had the ability to overwhelm me at times. In hindsight I had unresolved grief, I did experience low mood, low energy levels, and avoided participating fully in life to protect my heart from being hurt again. I never felt a true sense of completion with my losses.
I read the Grief Recovery Handbook and completed the course with a Grief Recovery Practitioner. During the process I felt a weight lift from my shoulders and I started to feel lighter. The Grief Recovery Method has enabled me to feel safe and secure again to open my heart and move forward in my life.
I look forward to leading you through the Grief Recovery process and helping you to complete the pain associated with your loss.
Over 40+ life losses can leave us feeling bereft
When we think of bereavement, we usually think of the death of a loved one. Most people looking for bereavement counselling or a grief coach only feel entitled to do so if someone close to them has died.
However there are over 40 different personal losses that can leave us feeling devastated, heartbroken, lost, hopeless and ultimately cause the same emotional and physical symptoms of grief.
The Grief Recovery Method is unique in that it is applicable to any and all kinds of loss. Each Certified Grief Recovery Specialist has been trained to guide grievers without judgement, criticism or analysis. We do not compare losses and we know that every griever is unique.
Not only can the action steps within the Grief Recovery Method be applied to any type of loss, they can be used again and again with any future losses that occur - once you have participated in a Programme, you will have all the tools you need to cope with loss later in life.
Death of a loved one
Divorce, separation, breakup
Estrangement of family members
Abusive or absent parent
Loss of safety due to trauma
Death of a pet
Retirement, empty nest
Loss of health
Loss of finances
Loss of faith
Loss of career
Loss of identity
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Helping Children with Loss
In addition to Grief Recovery Method programmes for grievers, I also offer courses for adults - parents, teachers and professionals - who would like to be better equipped to help the children in their care cope with losses of any kind.
The ACEs-informed Helping Children with Loss programme uses the same principles of the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method but adapts them for use with children of all ages and ability level.
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Grief Recovery Group Programme
Experience the power of Grief Recovery in a group setting. 8 two-hour sessions with a maximum of 12 people. The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
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Grief Recovery 1 to 1 Programme
This step-by-step course shows individuals how to complete the actions necessary to recover from grief in seven 1-hour sessions. Taking place in a safe environment with a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, it provides a genuine alternative to counselling or therapy. It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible programme that is genuinely for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
The programme is task based with weekly homework assignments using the Grief Recovery Handbook as the reference book.
Grief Recovery Method Pet Loss Support Group
The Grief Recovery Method Pet Loss Support Group is an 8-week, step-by-step group course in how to complete the actions necessary to recover from grief. It is not a drop-in group; nor is it counselling or therapy. In a safe, comfortable setting led by a trained Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, you will meet others who have also suffered from the loss of their beloved animal companion.